Awareness helps in knowing how we feel in the moment and why.
But awareness without the courage to act is like having a nice car you can’t drive.
Remember-You can’t change people who don’t want to change.
The coach can’t want the player to win more than the player does!
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- Empathize. But don’t say “cheer up” or “calm down” because telling people how to feel doesn’t actually change their feelings
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- Don’t blame, assume or attack. Don’t pick a side, either side you pick will egg a negative person on
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- Offer solution focused ideas but if they’re not received-respect their boundary and honor your own
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- Create your own boundaries around negative people to protect your energy and be firm
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- Protect your energy by reducing the amount of time you spend with negative people-this will help you remain calm in the time you do spend with them
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- Reduce the frequency of interaction with them, the more we revisit something the more we reinforce
- Realize that some people are committed to being negative so stop trying to resolve their perceptions or change them
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